“It seems like the first time…” goes the song. And, in a way, it is.
I’ve blogged for about 15 years – at some point, you start to lose track. Most recently, at Right As Usual, At Last – Retiring for Good, and Liberty’s Torch.
I also write – so far, a couple of short stories. I’ve also put up the first chapter of a work in progress – the goal is to have a book that boys might like to read – other than Harry Potter.
But, a perennial interest is politics and culture – and the intersection of the two. I was a 2nd-wave feminist, back when feminism wasn’t cool. For me, that was primarily working to open up opportunities for women in work and education. I drifted away when I had kids – that was a massive slap in the face with reality.
When politics and culture got REAL was in the aftermath of 9/11 (as it was for so many lazy, go-along folks). I read obsessively, trying to get on top of the news, and to make sense of the pushback from the Left. I really don’t know just how I stumbled upon right-of-center blogs; I just know that I had a sudden shock that the blogger was writing directly to me.
From that point, I started exploring ideas that I’d ignored before – about how the culture shapes politics, not the other way around. That to be for marriage and the family was not a bad thing. That the problems of many people were largely of their own making, and that they would latch onto any person – or party – arguing that they were a helpless victim of the Big, Bad Patriarchy.
I was not totally in favor of the 2nd Gulf War. I’d lived through the first, right after cable TV came to the small town we were living in at the time. I was so stressed, I went out several days before the attack started, and bought 10 skeins of yarn and an afghan needle. The result, a mixed blue and wine blend, I called my Afghan War afghan. Which, I gave to my son for his bed.
I had skin in the post-9/11 military activities – two of my kids were active Navy, and my daughter (and her future husband) was in the Army National Guard. For many people, the engagements after the Iraqi invasion was over were a minor sidenote. For me, it was more reason to worry. The smaller, not-fully-engaged wars have killed and maimed more people since WWII, than the full-on invasions. Many of them American citizens.
Today’s topic of interest was sparked by a post from Sgt. Mom, on The Chicago Boyz’s site. Like many of us, she has reached her limit of B$. She is Done with Feminism, and explains why.
Me, too – and not that over-hyped bandwagon that makes a woman a victim if she agrees to sex to advance her career, then decides the price was too high.
Feminism has devolved from a quest to level the playing field in work, education, and money access, to a Bitchy insistence that Womyn are the Queens of the Universe, and ALL MEN should Bow Down to Them.
NOW!
From that original reasonable beginning, the twisted outcomes include:
- Removing men from family life completely – whether through unfair custody settlements, unproven and unprovable abuse accusations, donor sperm, etc.
- Enshrining the Single Mother as the epitome of excellence – even though, by every measurable metric, the outcomes for the children are uniformly bad. Not just slightly worse, REALLY BAD.
- Re-designing the Welfare system to favor single motherhood, so much so, that a committed married couple takes a huge financial hit by remaining together.
- No-Fault Divorce – it was sold as a way for a guy to dump a resistant wife. Turns out, the women initiate divorces overwhelmingly.
- REALLY bad laws – and different across the country – that can have a guy paying for a kid he KNOWS (by DNA test) is not his. All the while, the mother can live with, and even marry, the actual father, who has NO obligation to support his own kid.
- Weaponizing the credit system, so that women can bankrupt an unwilling spouse, even though she has no independent income. In my view, he/she that earns the income, has the say in how that portion is spent, proportionally. With responsibility for providing the income, comes the right to direct that spending.
- The Sixties has much to answer for, but the most urgent need is to right the Buffooning of Men. In every depiction of men – whether TV, movies, advertisements, or on the news, there are only TWO ways that men are shown:
- Stupid, and de-balled
- Evil – yet, still a man
- Any wonder why boys are so screwed up?
Consider this my final kiss-off to current establishment feminism; nice to have known ya and believe me when I say that a female-ruled society would pure bloody hell, if it ever was or would be enabled. It would be somewhat akin to the hell of last week’s hearing for a new Supreme Court nominee – which for me was the very last straw.
No argument here – in my life, I’ve seen the best – and the worst – from women. But, until recently, I’d thought it unkind to speak of women as Literal Witches.
No more, guys, no more.
Welcome!
Removing men from family life completely: Been on the receiving end of unfair custody where you have to get an attorney just to get them to enforce their own rules. Not a blanket situation across the whole state. Sperm donor. First it’s “Multiple doctors have said I can’t get pregnant.” Then It’s I want you to be part of your sons life. Finally after continual excuses why you can’t see your child. It’s he abandoned you, so the child grows up hating the absent father. Side note this woman had fourteen abortions in the first fourteen years of my sons life. Long live Roe v. Wade.
Redesigning welfare system: I know blacks who claim that the redesigned welfare laws which came about under Johnson’s Great Society caused the destruction of the poor black family.
Well put! And thanks for the link.
It does look as if modern feminists are asking for freedoms to, especially to abuse lower ranked women and children; and that one of their reasons to hate men are that men protect women and children.
Applause.
Ms. Fox,
Good start. Continue please.
Delighted to see you blogging over here, too!
Sexual harassment in the workplace should be completely legal. I do not mean sexual assault. I mean quid pro quo offers of workplace advantage in return for sexual favors. If this seems shocking, consider the vice versa: offers of sexual favors in return for workplace advantage, or, as it has been known, sleeping your way up to the top.
Why should it be illegal for a man to initiate such a transaction but legal for a woman to do so? Fairness and the logic of sexual harassment law demands that when a woman is using her sexuality to get ahead at work, other employees who are denied workplace advantage should be able to sue her, shouldn’t they?
Starting this argument at a party is one of my favorite things, even better than raindrops on roses. It gets better if somebody grants the argument. What then about flirting? Wearing a low cut top? How do you deal with pretty privilege? Should there be some kind of affirmative action for unattractive people?
We’ll know we’ve reached the significant turning point when woke women start giving the shiv (figuratively speaking, of course) to feminist females every time they can. But talk, that’s a first step in the right direction gals.
I think a “Big Bang Theory” episode I recent caught is illustrative.
Leonard and Sheldon are upset because someone robbed one of their role playing game character’s accoutrements. I can’t recall which it was. They figure out where the guy and go over to demand that he take it back. Sheldon takes his Klingon sword-thing to look fierce (I like Star Trek but I’m happy to report I don’t know the name of the device). Instead the guy refuses and Leonard and Sheldon being who they are, the guy even takes the Klingon thing.
They run into Penny who marches them back to the guy’s house and when he still refuses to give back what he has taken, Penny knees him, hard. The guy doubles over in pain…and the laugh track and audience howl with laughter.
My guess is that the show would never have an episode where a woman gets slapped, even with reason.
Brava! I’m reading a book by the wonderful Heather MacDonald – The Burden of Bad Ideas. It was published in 2000, but things have gotten even worse. The chapter I read last night was Law School Humbug about the dreadful legal “theories” that are anti-man and anti-family. If you haven’t read it, you might be interested in doing so.
Sgt Mom is awesome – I first encountered her at Neo’s blog.